My Kind of Engagement

I have always thought of how I would like my engagement to be like. I am different in so many ways; I drink hot water even when it’s hot outside, I’d rather have my dinner for breakfast and breakfast for dinner, I don’t own a dress or a skirt (but I think I should, I’ll change this one), I love social gatherings even though I’m an introvert, I find humor in things that other people don’t, at the same time I will catch a joke two seconds too late, I love my potato crisps with ketchup and my plain yogurt with honey, I don’t like shopping-I find it very stressful especially when I am unable to get exactly what I want, which is the case most of the times. You get the gist, I am just different, and I’d like a different kind of engagement.

I love my family, I don’t like it when we fight. I am like the biggest anti-fighting campaigner in our household and they know it, but when it’s time to laugh, we have a really good time, and we like making fun of each other, that’s how we express our love. Everyone minds their own business though, but when it comes to my engagement, I want it to be every part of their business. I don’t want my guy (I will use ‘my guy’ in reference to…you know…) to engage me first before engaging my family. This might sound a little bit odd, or may come across as old school,  but I consider myself an old soul.

I’d like my guy to sit with my family and make his intentions known to them before he engages me. I was living with my parents when we pretty much had nothing. My kid brother was too young to understand how hard things were, my elder brother was living with my grandparents at the time and my elder sister was in boarding school for most part of it. I was very understanding of the situation despite my young age, I was forced to mature beyond my age, and for this, my parents have always treasured me. Engaging my family is very important to me. I’d like my guy to show them that he cares enough to let them know that he has found love in me and would like to have my hand in marriage. I’d like my family to know that I will always be there for them despite the fact that this charmer wants to take me away from them. I’d like my family to feel comforted that I am being taken into the best hands of an honorable man . Things might not always be smooth but making a commitment to my family that he will take care of me regardless of the situation is what I want my guy to assure my family, because that’s what they did for me when it seemed almost impossible.

I do not like surprises. That’s the other thing that is different about me. I really don’t know how to react to surprises. I remember when my mom bought me my first computer, everyone  in my family decided to surprise me but I surprised them as I wasn’t really surprised! I was happy, but I just didn’t know how to react to the surprise, and after years of so many other surprises, I still don’t know how to react to them. I know engagements are one of the biggest steps in a man’s life and should be like the best moments ever. I know he would love to surprise me, and deep down, I know I want to make the exception and accept to be surprised, but I want to be psychologically prepared for it. My guy doesn’t have to tell me that he will engage me, but I don’t want any big surprise especially with crowds involved. I want it to be in every sense a private and romantic affair. My guy will have known me good enough to know what will work for me and what won’t. Well, I wish him the best of luck, and I hope he will understand if I don’t react as expected, more so, I hope I will be pleasantly surprised for the first time ever and he’d feel on to of the world, like he just hit the jackpot :-D.

I’d like my guy to put the ring on my finger even before he makes the big speech. I know this is unconventional, but I want him to have the confidence that I will say yes. I want him to be without a doubt that I am the woman for him and that I feel the same for him when he puts that ring on my finger. I don’t want a fearful kind of engagement; one that the guy does because he is afraid of losing me! I believe engagements should not be based on unrequited love; we both have to feel the same for each other and be confident about the step that we are taking together.

Well, these are just my thoughts, he doesn’t have to conform to them, but it would mean a great deal if he took these three little things into consideration, and the rest he can use his creative juices to make the engagement insanely cute and unforgettable. A girl can only dream, I hope my simple dream comes true some day ;-).

I Am Bush_Locked 🙂

Kiss my Bruises Away

I was going through my office inbox and came across an article I sent to my workmate about two years ago. I did not indicate who the writer was, but it was a good read then, and I believe it’s even a better read now. True men of honor who deeply value and respect women are alive and among us, and true love still does exist. I have to admit I am a hopeless romantic. For those who still haven’t found ‘The One’, delight in this beautiful piece. You are worth this kind of man. May you find the one who will kiss your bruises away 🙂

“There are men out there who will respond to your text messages. Men who will initiate conversations because they simply can’t wait to see what you’ll say next. There are men who will never be too busy or too preoccupied to wish you good morning, regardless if you’re a country or a block away. Men who remember to call when they say they will – because they want to – and those who surprise you with their curiosity about your sometimes monotonous days. There are men who aim to be the last person you talk to before you sleep and the first name you see on your screen when you rise. Men who show up on time – or even early – men who are genuinely excited to see you.

There are men who want to go on dates. Real dates. Men who want to take you out to their favorite restaurant and will never expect you to pay, but always appreciate the gesture. There are men who want to talk to you for longer than one drink after work, and longer than what’s enough to get you upstairs. There are men who you won’t have to convince to see you. Men who aren’t purely motivated to be your sexual company, but just love being around you. There are men who won’t wait three days — or even three hours– to ask you out again. Men who have grown past games and cryptic messages that you don’t have time to decode. There are men who simply, truly just want to get to know you.

There are men who want to hold your hand in public. Men who enjoy walking around department stores shopping for things they can’t afford but love the feeling of your tiny fingers interlaced with their adorably-bony knuckles. There are men who love sitting next to you on the downtown train just so they can look at your face, even if they notice the uneven lines and imperfect skin in the terrible lighting, because they can’t imagine another way to spend their Saturday afternoon. Men who wish they could capture the wonder on your face when you see a new part of the city you didn’t know you loved, but now do. Men who want to show you off to the strangers on the street because they find you so incredibly intoxicating. There are men who are happy to be seen by your side, thankful to be someone you chose to roam about town with.

There are men who want to be your boyfriend. Who are totally excited to introduce you as their girlfriend to their friends, to their families, to the women who try to pick them up in bars. Men who aren’t unavailable, who are ready for a relationship, who aren’t ripe with excuses why the timing or the situation, the feeling or the possibility just isn’t right.  Men who don’t blame yesterday on their immature inability to develop something today and imagine tomorrow. There are men who wouldn’t pass on the chance to be yours because they know how amazing – how special – how superbly wonderful you are, and that they’re lucky you want to be with them, and only them. There are men who don’t hesitate on title changes or commitment. Men who want to grow with you and learn with you, love you the best they can, be with you as long as you allow them to. Men who don’t reply “thank you” when you say those precious three words. There are even men who say that incomparable phrase first, not second.

There are men who are proud of your successes, not intimidated by them. Men who are amazed by your determination and passion, who see the things inside of you that you can’t notice yet, or decide to ignore. There are men who believe in your future as much as they believe in the world you can create together. Men who want to witness your bad times and your good, be there when you fail and celebrate when you find that sense of belonging that we all look for, but never know quite what it means until we stumble across it. There are men who know to buy yellow tulips and kiss your forehead when you’ve had a rough day, men who remember you don’t ever take advice in the worst of situations, but you’ll want to hear it in the morning. Men who remind you of all the things to come and promise to be there when you get to the top of that mountain you’re climbing. There are men who really mean that and are there at the peak. And in the valley.

There are men who listen. Men who linger on each and every word you say because they know they will never know too much about you, and are intrigued to always learn more, regardless of how long they’ve known you. There are men who have the ability to put your needs before their own, who remember the first time they noticed something different about you. Men who like the way you look right after a long shower or a night run, when you’re dressed to go out and when you’re in your sweats from college. Men who see your insecurities but find them only a small part of what makes you beautiful. There are men who will remember your birthday, the day you met, the moment they knew they loved you and when you made them want to be a better person. There are men who love your thoughtful heart as much as they’re turned on by your soft body. Men who know how hard you like it, what part of your neck gets you going and that sometimes, you really just need to be spooned until you fall asleep. There are men who will accept you for whatever you are, whoever you are, whenever you decide to be that person in that place. Men who will stand by you – and fight for you – because they know you’re worth it. Because they know you’d do the same for them.

There are men who will spend weeks, months or even a year planning the perfect way to propose. Men who not only realize how special that moment will be to you, but how important of a story it’ll be to the children you don’t have yet. There are men who want to watch the wrinkles form around your eyes and especially around your mouth, because they’ve spent decades listening to that laugh they love come out of the sweetest smile they’ve ever seen. Men who will leave you notes by your morning coffee or send you sweet – or dirty – text messages at work, even after you’ve been married fifteen years. There are men who will adore all of the things that make you a woman, even when those things bear babies instead of nights of sexual release, even when those things drag instead of rise to occasions. Men who will always remember what you looked like that day you walked toward them in a white gown with glitter on your eyes and the purist of hope in your heart. There are men who truly, honestly, completely will love you.

There are so many men out there. But you’ll never meet them if you don’t let go of the guys you really don’t want to find the men you really deserve. The men who are waiting to meet someone just like you.”

I Am Bush_Locked 🙂